Making A Life of One’s Own

So I did my 10K walk yesterday but when I got home I was too tired and broken to write. I ended up doing my meditation and falling asleep on my sofa. As usual, it was an event-filled day with many serendipitous moments. I ran into Sarah Hussain, and she was doing mendhi on a client, Kimberley. How gorgeous!!

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Kimberley at Balzac’s, henna by Sarah Hussain

I read from the Underground Girls of Kabul, and I was struck by the response that Jenny gets when she asks a group of Afghan women what they feel the difference between men and women are. Men respond to that same question by saying that women are more nurturing, caring, sensitive, and less physically capable. Women respond by using one word: freedom. As in men have it, and women do not. It made me feel so grateful for what I have, the freedom to do as I wish, even though it doesn’t always feel that way.

On my walk earlier I had walked by the Blu God tattoo store, just as Krishna’s face was being peeled off. I couldn’t believe it!! Krishna always talks about impermanence in the Bhagavad Gita, how nothing stays the same, time swallows everything, and here he was, being peeled away, his flute and smiling face no longer gracing the busy Yonge street traffic.

I also had a chance to sit outside Osgoode Hall and read for a bit. As I was reading and observing the squirrels, I saw a streetcar go by with Lilly Singh’s picture on it (photo above). She is truly one of the most inspirational, authentic people in the entertainment industry, always true to herself and exuding so much light and love. It’s great to see her face around the city as a reminder of how to stay grounded and true, even if you’re famous and life is always exciting.

On the way home I stopped at Chapters. I tried to read from “I’ll give you the sun” for an upcoming book club meeting, since I promised Jasmine that I would give it a shot, but I just couldn’t get into it. I came across this book on comedy writing instead and it inspired me to start working on jokes!! I’ve been coming up with a lot of good ideas lately, since my life is a bit of a disaster at times and it makes for good comedy.

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I also came across an interesting book called “Spinster: Making A Life of One’s Own”, which started off like this:

Whom to marry, and when will it happen – These two questions define every woman’s existence, regardless of where she was raised or what religion she does or doesn’t practice. She may grow up to love women instead of men, or to decide she simply doesn’t believe in marriage. No matter. These dual contingencies govern her until they’re answered, even if the answers are nobody and never.

How very true! Ahhh the quest for love and reciprocity. Never gets old and never ceases to torment.

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Spinster: Making A Life of One’s Own

One more really cool thing happened yesterday. I was at the reference library and came across an Indian soap opera shown on the multi-television screen. The prince says to Queen Joda: “You have many talents Queen Joda. Unfortunately expressing gratitude is not one of them.” To which she replies: “Thank you”. What a nice reminder to always be thankful!

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New Years Resolutions

2016. A new year and exciting opportunities ahead. It was so stressful coming up with these resolutions but I finally have a list!

  1. Teach my kriya meditation to my friends or whoever is interested, and complete the Shambhavi meditation course
  2. Complete at least five toastmasters speeches
  3. Take three Creative Writing Courses at the University of Toronto
  4. Do my yearly Walk In Her Shoes campaign, this time walking 10 km once each week and blogging about my experiences
  5. Launch blog, advertise, think of ways to increase visibility
  6. Help Mom to complete her children’s book
  7. Take flamenco dancing classes at the Esmeralda Enrique Dance Company
  8. Speak to a classroom of students about my experiences with anxiety and depression
  9. Perform at a comedy club and this time actually invite my friends!
  10. Get my first project management contract either through my own consulting business or through an organization

Tools/Ongoing Practice

  1. Daily kriya meditation (2x/day)
  2. Body scan meditation (4x/week)
  3. Yoga (3x/week)
  4. Eating healthy and cooking lots